What Changes?
When so much around us is shifting, Bebe asks a simpler question: what is actually ours to change?
This page shares a short summary of Bebe’s essay. The full piece was first published on presencebasedcoaching.com.
Bebe writes from a season of reflection, as change seems to arrive from every direction at once: in relationships and at work, in families and in the wider world. Rather than trying to keep pace with all of it, she separates change into two kinds.
The change around us
Much of what shifts in the outer world sits beyond our reach. Bebe notes how easily that tips into overwhelm, a loss of agency, even resignation. The way through, she suggests, isn’t more effort but a different place to put our attention.
The change within us
Turning inward starts with watching ourselves in action: the pull to control an outcome, to manage how others feel, to carry more responsibility than is ours. Bebe is candid that she recognizes these patterns in herself, including the urge to stay busy when she doesn’t yet know what to do next.
Where the leverage is
Noticing the story we’re telling ourselves, and choosing a different one, opens a little space. A sense of helplessness can become a question about what we truly need, how we want to respond, or what one small next step might be, and who could help.
Growing to meet what is
Outer conditions may never change. Inner change, Bebe argues, is where development lives, and where we find the freedom to meet reality as the people we want to be.
Full essay
Read the complete piece where it was first published.
About Bebe
Bebe Hansen is a leadership and somatic coach, coach educator and former psychotherapist who has spent more than three decades helping people grow through change.
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